Teaching Children about their Bodies
R and M are due to start nursery in September so I think it’s about time that I talked to them about their bodies. Call me an over-protective mum if you want to, but I feel it’s important to talk to them about this.
The thing is, I’m not really sure where to start!
I want to explain to them about who can and can’t see their bodies, along with when and where they can’t they show them.
I remember being at play group once when M told me she needed the toilet. Before I knew it she had pulled both her trousers and underwear down there and then in the room. We were surrounded by lots of children and parents.
It didn’t bother me that she’d done this as I guess she wasn’t to know any better, but from that moment on it did get me thinking about how to approach this subject with them.
I feel it’s important to explain to them that the only people who should see them with nothing on is mummy, daddy and their older brother and sisters as they do on occasion help them go to the toilet.
When it comes to nursery I need to tell them that the only people who should see them with no clothes on is a teacher and only when they need to use the toilet or need to change their clothes if they get a bit messy.
Some people feel uncomfortable talking about such things, but this does lead me onto the subject of explaining to them that no-one should ever touch them. How do I start that conversation with them?
I’m wondering if there are any books available which can help with this sort of thing as it may be a bit easier to explain using a book. I’ll have to have a look online.
Have you ever had this discussion with your toddlers or maybe the thought hasn’t even crossed your mind? What do you think about it? Can you offer any suggestions?
5 Comments
Tickle Fingers
March 24, 2015 at 9:52 am
This is such a tricky one as you don't want to freak them out or get them body conscious at such a young age. When my girls were 4 and 3, they started prodding each others bits in the bath and finding it hilarious! I found that a good opportunity to gently explain that their bits are theirs and they shouldn't touch other people's and other people shouldn't touch theirs. As a throw away comment, I added "by the way, if anyone does touch your bits, you should tell Mummy." I left it at that. Would love to know anyone else's ideas? #TwinklyTuesday Over from http://www.cookwithtoddlers.com
Mama, My Kid Doesn’t Poop Rainbows
March 24, 2015 at 11:11 am
Have exactly the same concerns, although it's a little further in the future for me, but no advice- sorry. I heard that a parent explained it by saying the parts of you which are covered by a bathing suit are your private parts and people shouldn't touch them. Be interested if anyone has a more informed opinion.
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Lianne
March 24, 2015 at 12:24 pm
I think your being a very responsible parent. In this day an age, sadly being over-protective of our children is essential.
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Lisa (mummascribbles)
March 24, 2015 at 9:35 pm
You are being very sensible but I can't advise how to go about it. Zach has been at nursery for ages now and he's been too young to tell but I guess I should soon start thinking about telling him too. I'm not sure he'll get it yet – maybe on a few month. Thanks for highlighting the importance of it though and thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday
themummystylist.com
March 24, 2015 at 10:43 pm
In this day and age, I think this is an important subject to cover and we do need to educate our kids. I must admit I haven't brought it up with my toddler, he's still in nappies. But when he is speaking and understands, I will tell him that what you have told your toddlers. I think that's all you can do.
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Sabrina x